Losing my SH*T

Have you ever felt confident you have everything under control only to have the slightest thing push you over the edge?

That’s me. Right now. Seriously crying. Like ugly crying.

Whats worse is I tell myself you know the strategies. You help people for a living! What’s wrong with you. And there it is….somethings wrong. I’m wrong. I’m not good enough.

That hurts! If that even describes how it feels. I have a giant boulder in my stomach and pressure in my head. My eyes want to cry tears of release but my mind is fighting it. I’m stronger than that. But am I?

Yes I am but right now I don’t believe it and my thoughts are racing back and forth. I’m getting tired. Its exhausting.

Regardless of what happened or what set you off, this is a biological response. My body is doing what it is supposed to. Protect me! Honestly!

So what do I do. I slow down and take care if myself. Just the next right step for me. That’s good enough! I’m good enough.

If you can relate to any of this post, I can help turn that pain and exhaustion into steps of healing. Imagine the pressure in your head gone, the tears dried up and the boulder giving way to space and freedom. Together we can make that a reality.

You don’t have to do it alone and you don’t have to be in pain. Contact me to take that next right step for you.

Starting something new

Whenever I start something new, I am so excited. I want to rush head first into it and get everything done all at the same time. I know this strategy doesn’t work and isn’t effective but I do it anyway. Why is that?

Past behaviours and experiences are how we set our expectations based on learned pathways. It all starts with the biology of it all. Starting something new means I draw on my past experiences and what worked in the past. The reinforced pathway. I always start this way and the starting point is always the positive point. Therefore there is no reason to change it and I have this strong learned pathway to go head strong into it.

But, the next part, oh the next part. It is the one where I start to doubt myself. It might look like…What am I doing? Who thought this was a good idea? I thought I could do this? What was I thinking…. It stems from the ultimate feeling of not being good enough. And that feeling, it sucks. It doesn’t do me any good. I can see you shaking your head at home while you’re reading this. You know that feeling. Maybe it looks a lot like me.

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What if I told you, we could change that. Would you believe me? What if we created a new pathway so that your go to wasn’t that up and down spike? It can be done. Now, it takes effort and strength and commitment. I’m not talking the whole climbing everest or running a marathon effort, but conscious and deliberate attempt to change. Sound doable?

If so, reach out to me to learn more. Got 15 minutes?

I’ve never been where you are

Truly, I have never been where you are, so I am not going to pretend that I have. I have only been where my life has taken me and oh boy, do I have some stories. But this is your story. Would you believe me if I said that no one knows 100% what you are facing? Even a sibling who has similar experiences and upbringing doesn’t experience the world the exact same. It is what makes us completely unique.

So I need to learn things through your eyes. What did you experience, how did you perceive it, remember it, etc. These small factors can make a difference in understanding someone’s point of view. Sometimes we are fully aware, sometimes not. Sometimes our focus is shifted or altered. Our memory at times may even suck. That’s ok. We will work with what we have and we will learn to grow in ways we want to improve.

But from day one I can guarantee that I am in your corner. You are not alone and you don’t have to figure it out on your own. So regardless of the obstacle in front of you, you know that you have resources in your corner to turn to until the day that you have learned them and you don’t need me anymore. That is the ultimate goal!

Taming Ourselves

We live our lives through a series of rules. These help us be responsible and survive but what happens when they don’t work well? What if they aren’t our own rules? We all were taught right from wrong. But has anyone ever told you that life is full of grey?

The grey area is the area where there is a vast array of options. So which is the right one? Well first go back to your rules. What does your rules say? Ask yourself questions about these rules. Are they your rules? If not, where did they come from? Parents? Friends? Teachers? Social media? If they aren’t your rules, do you agree with them or would you rather change them?

What if I said you have the power to change them? Let’s do that. Change them. Right now. So what would your rules say now? It’s ok to change the rules and its ok to live your life by your rules. By doing so you are incorporating what is important to you and guiding your life by your own compass.